Do I Want My Ex Back?
Your relationship is over and now you are thinking “do I want my ex back“. Are you just missing having someone special in your life? Or are you missing your ex? This is especially important if you had initiated the breakup.
Practically all relationships hit some bad patch at some point. But they survive these problems. It is all about being able to give and take in a relationship. Not about one person doing all the giving and the other all the taking. People are different and need to live with one another.
Deciding you want to share your life with someone is a big commitment. The sexual attraction between a couple, especially in the early stages, can often cloud their judgment and it is surprising how many people enter into long term relationships without having agreed the basics. Little things like where you want to live and whether you want to have children are often forgotten in the excitement of being together.
Men and women fall out for all sorts of reasons. At times of financial and family stress, we often pick on those nearest to us. When you care for another person and know them intimately you have the power to really hurt that person. If we ourselves are hurting, we often turn that hurt and anger onto the other person.
It is important to understand why you broke up in the first place. If you ended the relationship because one of you wanted children and the other didn’t, then you will find that this probably hasn’t changed. You may get back together but in the long run will split up again if this issue is not resolved. Forcing someone into a huge life commitment like having a child against their will does not usually result in a long term happy relationship. If you have very different viewpoints on these life issues, you should stay apart and find someone more compatible to fall in love with.
If, on the other hand, you split up because of jealousy or some other petty incident then your relationship may be worth saving. If you really miss your previous partner and know that you want to share your life with them, then you must do everything in your power to get back with your ex.
Contact your partner and let him/her know that you would like to meet up to discuss the future. This is not the time to dissect what went wrong before. It is too easy to put the blame on the other person. Instead agree that there were problems but that you would like to rekindle the relationship.
If your answer to “do I want my ex back” is “yes” then you might want to suggest counselling. It often helps to have an impartial person listen to your points of view. You are less likely to lose your temper, storm out and find yourself suddenly single again.
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Contacting your partner is a good idea, but you can’t do it immediately. The first thing you need to do after the break up is give your ex time to miss you. Once that happens, your ex will be a LOT more receptive to anything you have to say.
I broke up with 2 girlfriends in my life which I tried to get back. In the first case I hadn’t read any website or e-book and did everything wrong. In the second I used some of the tips you give in this website and I am with her now ! Thank you !
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I think some people are just not meant to be no matter how hard one or both tries, but if the feelings are still there for both parties there are some great resources out there to help you get back on track the right way.
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Contacting your partner is a good idea, but you can’t do it immediately.
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It’s an absolute revelation to see someone ask the question which most people refuse to face “Do I want my ex back?”
One of the reasons that some people want to get back with their ex is simply the fact that they don’t want to have to make the effort to find a new partner and be on their best behaviour during the first few months of the new relationship!
Sound familiar?
Take good care of those that you love.