Lots of people who break up somehow seem to look for ways to “getting back at your ex“. But, seriously, why bother at getting back at your ex. Such getting back may hurt you more than the person it is meant to hurt. There are more important things in your life that you want to go after than waste time on such actions.

Couples split up for all sorts of reasons but it takes two to tango. Sure, he may have had an affair or she may have a drink problem but at the end of the day it is usually too simple to blame only one of the parties.

But when a relationship ends it should be final unless both of you decide that you wish to get back together. Otherwise, move on. Don’t waste your time or energy trying to think of ways to destroy his life or pick fights with her new man.

Every man or woman over the age of 21 has probably been dumped at some point in their lives. Breaking up can be extremely painful – you only have to see how many films and songs are written on the subject. Even classic books involve painful relationships – have you read Jane Eyre lately?

Relationships of all types make the world go round and it would be a very boring place if we were happy all of the time. Stories such as Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty end when the couple kiss and we all believe they will live happily ever after. But strangely, there are no follow on stories to see what happened after their magical moments.

Life is too short to live it out to be thinking about getting back at your ex. The only person that will suffer will be you and those that love you. Your ex will be long gone – do you really think that they give you more than a fleeting thought. They didn’t care enough about you to stay together so why would they care now?

There are plenty of lovely people for you to date and perhaps fall in love with. But you will never find a fulfilling new relationship if your life is consumed by hatred for someone else. Being on your own for the first time in a long time can be tough but it can also be liberating. Think positively – you now have the chance to do all the things you wanted to do but your partner wasn’t interested in.

List down 20 things that you are grateful for and read this every night before you fall asleep. Add add more daily and you will soon find that life is good and you will have no time to think about getting back at your ex.

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