How Do I Get My Ex Girl Back?

Tuesday, August 4th, 2009 at 5:22 am

So often men end up asking “how do I get my ex girl back?” They just do not seem to know when they got a good thing doing and do something ridiculous to cause a break up… and the ask “how do I get my ex girl back”. Good news is that women do change their mind and men can work their magic in making up.

There are some men who have lost their girlfriends for

- wearing the wrong type of shoes!
- her mother
- the new barmaid at his favorite bar smiled at him.

Now a pretty face can turn any man’s head and there is the dreaded notion that a woman may turn into her mother but come on guys – the wrong type of shoes? If women didn’t date men because of the clothes they were wearing the human race would have died out long ago. Behind every well dressed man is a good woman- in early life his mother and later his wife!

Before breaking up with your partners, make a list. On one side of the list, you put her good points. Do you find her interesting? Does she look after you? Does she cook for you? Does she laugh at your jokes? Are you attracted to her?

On the other side of the list, you can put the things that wind them up. Ok she may nag at little too much but then if you put the toilet seat down she might stop. She may not want more than a cuddle every evening but five times a week doesn’t mean that she isn’t caring enough.

Writing the good and bad points of your life together down on paper may seem like a cold approach but it is a very practical way of seeing what a great relationship you do or did have.

You need to compare the two two sides of this list and decide if you should be breaking up with this woman. If you are doing it after the event, it also helps to clarify if you made the right decision to finish the relationship. Sometimes we regret breaking up as we end up feeling lonely. But loneliness is not a reason to get back together.

If you have dumped the lady in your life but now know it was the wrong decision you need to act fast. Great life partners do not grow on trees. She has shown that she will put up with you in all your glory – how many women would be mad enough to do that?

Put some romance back into her life. Send her flowers – not just any flowers but some of her favorites. Send her a handwritten letter telling her how much you love her and miss her. Book her favorite restaurant and treat her to a night out.

In short, you need to treat her just like the way you did when you were first dating her. Assuming you are not a complete disgrace, you will have the answer to your “how do i get my ex girl back?”

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